Grief and the Holidays

December 5, 2017

Janet Breen, LPC; Program Coordinator, Kaleidoscope Grief Center The Holidays are upon us and if you are dealing with the death of a loved one, grief at its best, is an unpleasant journey. It is a trip we try to avoid but death comes to us all at one time or another in our lives. It is a trip we all must take. Sometimes it is difficult to believe that you will ever feel better or that you will be able to move on with your life. No doubt, you have been forever changed by your loss and are on a path to try to make sense of things and begin a new way of life. It helps to know that what you choose to do now in your time of grief is something you may not have chosen last month or last week. Your process is continually changing as you are on this journey to attempt to deal with your loss. During this holiday season, it might help to consider the following grief tips that many grief experts advise including Dr. John Canine of Maximum Living Consultants, Inc.: Tell yourself that you are ok and focus on your good traits. Avoid thoughts that begin with “if only”. Tell yourself that you will get better. Talk about your loved one’s death and tell their story. Understand that the grieving process includes progress and set backs. Live one day at a time. Understand and express your feelings. Exercise and eat nutritious foods. Be open to new experiences. Let the children have a place in planning family holiday activities. Light a candle in honor of your loved one. Grief is best expressed through rituals. Lighting a candle gives you permission to sit down, reflect, look at pictures, and release emotions. It is a lesson we have learned well at the Kaleidoscope Grief Center. We light our community memorial candle at the start of every grief group in honor of our deceased loved one. Please consider contacting Kaleidoscope Grief Center for grief services for you and your family if you are struggling with the support you need at this difficult time. It is good to have a plan for your grief in anticipating the holidays. Take time this season to consider one or more of these ideas and then, do it!

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Seasons for Growth, Living with Grief, Loss and Change in Life

November 9, 2017

J. Breen, LPC It is not possible to be human and avoid the normal and often valuable experience of loss and grief. Loss and grief are issues which affect all of us at some stage in our lives. Learning to deal with these issues is central to personal wellbeing and happiness. There are many different losses that occur in one’s lifetime. The one that people automatically think of when grief is mentioned is death, but there are many others such as illness, disability, adoption, abuse, workplace change, unemployment, cultural dislocation, marriage separation and divorce. Experiences such as these bring about change, both for the individual and for the family as a whole. Seasons can represent a series of phases or stages within the lifecycle and the grief cycle. Change goes on within each season, and a transition is required for the shift from one season to the next as we go about our grief process. In the “springtime” of our lives, nothing matters but what our future holds. Loved ones may be healthy or successful and relationships stable. In summer, we may see new possibilities and experience little pain. Everything feels just right during the “summertime” of our lives. The fall or “harvest” time often greets us with challenges for which we aren’t prepared. This time challenges the very core of everything understood. We redefine our lives and ourselves, adjust goals and make changes. Sometimes the season feels like eternity, especially for people experiencing repeated loss and grief. The “winter” time of life is cold. There is nothing left and you simply feel burned out. You have little hope, motivation and desire. You experience one loss after another. You struggle with loved ones, relationships and change. You aren’t accepting of anything in your life. Many families feel this way while experiencing a season in which a loved one has slipped into a depression. We all face pain, grief and loss at some point or season in our lives. The key is what we choose to do with these experiences. Perhaps we can deal with these seasons of our life through “surrender, self-care and hope.” Change is inevitable and it is best not to fight it. Sometimes we have to accept the season we are in. With acceptance comes greater awareness and knowledge. Take care of yourself during a season in which you are unprepared, taking time to reflect, organize your thoughts and challenge negative thoughts. Look for hope and a new experience in the things around you. What could your current position in the world be saying to you? Is there something you need to change in this season of your life?

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Calvin Klein Gives Back this Holiday

November 8, 2017

WHO: Methodist Family Health, Dillard’s and Calvin Klein WHAT: Calvin Klein Gives Back shopping event at Dillard’s in Arkansas  WHEN: Each event is December 3-9, 2017 (week-long) WHERE:        Dillard’s Park Plaza Mall in Little Rock and McCain Mall in North Little Rock Dillard’s Northwest Arkansas Mall in Fayetteville and Pinnacle Hills Promenade in Rogers Dillard’s Hot Springs Mall in Hot Springs Dillard’s The Mall at Turtle Creek in Jonesboro Dillard’s Central Mall in Texarkana BACKGROUND:  Shop ladies’ Calvin Klein sportswear December 3-9 and for every $100 spent in Calvin Klein, $10 will be donated to Methodist Family Health, which provides quality, compassionate psychiatric, emotional and behavioral healthcare to children and families throughout Arkansas. MFH serves thousands of clients in inpatient, residential and outpatient venues of care. Its mission is to give the best possible care to those who may need its help and to treat the whole person: behaviorally, emotionally and spiritually. Since 1899, Methodist Family Health has been rebuilding the lives of children and families in Arkansas. Our continuum of care includes an acute and subacute, inpatient hospital; residential treatment centers (RTCs) to help children and adolescents struggling with chronic mental, emotional and behavioral issues; group homes provide a family-like setting in the community while providing emotional and behavioral treatment; and an emergency shelter, which offers a nurturing environment for children in the custody of the state’s Division of Children and Family Services (DCFS), and serves as a temporary placement for children in DCFS who are waiting for a permanent placement, either with family members, foster homes or group homes; therapeutic day treatment, which consists of two schools that work with children who are unable to perform in a regular academic setting and may need additional educational, behavioral and emotional support; Arkansas Center for Addictions Research, Education and Services (CARES), a residential substance abuse treatment center and mental health service for mother and their children up to age 12; school-based counseling and outpatient counseling clinics;  and the Kaleidoscope Grief Center, the state’s only grief center for children and their families.

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Break the Cycle of Dating Abuse

October 16, 2017

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. As an organization that works with children who have experienced or witnessed – or both – physical, sexual and emotional abuse, Methodist Family Health understands the long-lasting damage this violence has on children, their families, friends, teachers and community. Because domestic violence isn’t something people want to acknowledge is taking place, more people than we realize are being hurt and continuing these patterns while dating. For example, did you know that more than 50 percent of women and men who have been physically abused or stalked by a dating partner first experienced physical, sexual, emotional or a combination of this abuse between the ages of 11 and 24? According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, unhealthy relationships can start early and last a lifetime. Kids often think some behaviors, like teasing and name-calling, are a “normal” part of a relationship. However, these behaviors can become abusive and develop into more serious forms of violence. Dating violence is defined as the physical, sexual, psychological or emotional violence within a dating relationship, including stalking. It can occur in person or electronically and might occur between a current or former dating partner. Dating violence is widespread with serious long-term and short-term effects. Many teens do not report it because they are afraid to tell friends and family. As kids develop emotionally, they are heavily influenced by experiences in their relationships. Healthy relationship behaviors can have a positive effect on a kid’s emotional development. Unhealthy, abusive or violent relationships can have severe consequences and short- and long-term negative effects on a developing child. Youth who experience dating violence are more likely to experience: Symptoms of depression and anxiety; Engagement in unhealthy behaviors, such as tobacco and drug use, and alcohol; Involvement in antisocial behaviors; and Thoughts about suicide. Additionally, youth who are victims of dating violence in high school are at higher risk for victimization during college. Methodist Family Health has professionals, services and resources available to help kids, teens and adults cope with domestic violence, including dating abuse. If you or someone you love is experiencing any of the following warning signs, contact us immediately for help:   Checking cell phones, emails or social networks without permission from the person you are dating; Extreme jealousy or insecurity; Constant belittling or put-downs; Explosive temper; Isolation from family and friends; Making false accusations; Constant mood swings towards you; Physically inflicting pain or hurt in any way; Possessiveness; Telling someone what to do; and Repeatedly pressuring someone to have sex. Call Methodist Family Health any time for free at 866-813-3388 or e-mail We will help.

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Share the Light – Krysta’s Story

October 11, 2017

Krysta White grew up in a Methodist Family Health group home. Today, she is a wife, mom, college graduate and valued employee of Methodist Family Health, sharing her light of hope, peace and stability with kids we serve today. This is her story. Krysta Shares the Light   Would you like to share the light with your congregation this holiday season? Please download any of these files to use in your sermons, bulletins, e-newsletters or mailings. Need more information? Contact Methodist Family Health anytime at or 501-906-4209. 2017 Christmas Appeal Slide 2017 Christmas Appeal Slide 2017 Christmas Appeal Slide

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